Do you ever feel like you really have no true control over your destiny?
Have you allowed yourself to remain the limited version of yourself, denying your very vision in order to survive? Have you stifled your true calling – your highest version of yourself – out of an old paradigm to remain “safe?”
Do all of the wildly successful entrepreneurs that are so plentiful just literally “leap into their greatness” like they all seem to talk about? Just “step out” into their dream life with wild abandon?
Are you a parent, stuck in a dead-end job, feeling overwhelmed, financially inept, and, well, like you are living your life to get by check to check and pray for a miracle each week to cover your basic needs?
Are you ready to take a major leap, but fear actually taking the jump?
Have you spent a lot of time working on your “stuff” – your self talk, emotional issues, belief systems, values, intentions, spiritual life, and still are nowhere near personal freedom?
Have you had enough? Enough of “getting ready?”
I have. I have this deep nagging that won’t go away. This nagging has been there for a long time, but it’s easy to lose sight of when I’m busy managing my life. And this is a very dangerous thing, because when we suppress or ignore our inner promptings, we fall out of flow with our higher knowing and often lose precious time taking the longer, harder detour instead.
So instead of consuming myself with my life and silencing my inner promptings, I turned all of my focus to the nagging within. I got curious about what it was, what it has been wanting to tell me, and I made a commitment to get clear about what I needed to let go of.
I identified this something… the something that I have been resisting. My resistance to change goes back to my love of comfort, predictability, the illusion of control, and ultimately hiding. This is my personality default. It’s what I have always done when I wasn’t choosing to be conscious of my purpose or calling. It’s what I did when I didn’t yet understand that life is fluid, always changing, always flowing, and no matter what we do we cannot change life. We must change.
The dangerous part happens when you cling to an aspect of life that goes against the current of your life. When you cling to what you have, and you resist the change that is seeking to emerge, life will call on you to let go. If life can’t get you to flow with gentle currents, it will send much stronger waters, and if you continue to cling to what you must release, it will send a tidal wave.
These are the big events, the one’s that break you down to break you through. I’ve had far too many of these and I’ve discovered that I much prefer to learn, live, and grow through joy – the gentle currents – than through suffering.
Recently, some new opportunities have emerged – opportunities to stretch and grow, to do more sharing, more blogging, more video (YouTube), more personal expansion through coaching partnerships as a workshop leader.
And here’s how I reacted: I can’t do it!
I felt the pain of being pulled outside of my comfort zone – because I am an introvert—and I hide behind all sorts of very compelling excuses:
“Oh I wish I could take these opportunities, this all sounds so wonderful, but my life is just too full right now – I don’t have the time.”
And I didn’t stop there. I broke open a fresh can of clichés and went to work painting myself into a corner of comfort and safety:
If it ain’t broke don’t fix it.
I am finally comfortable with learning to tolerate and emotionally manage my toxic boss; and nothing is broken so why interfere, right?
This is a cop-out that we use to justify stagnation. Everything that matters to us needs our energy or it will break and why must we wait until things break? My iron-clad rationalization for clinging to what I have is this… “A bird in the hand beats two in the bush.”
Now this one was perfect because how could I give up the beautiful bird I had for simply the potential of some other beautiful birds?
And the answer came easily: because if I do not reach for my potential, I will always look back wishing and wondering what would have happened if I’d had the courage to believe in myself and trust life.
And there it was, the crux and essence of this whole experience.
If I fully and completely believed in myself and trusted life, I would let go and I would reach outside of my comfort zone. I would rise to new opportunities without hesitation. I wouldn’t settle for comfort, or make excuses for not following my deepest promptings. I wouldn’t stick my head in the sand and wait for a tidal wave to rip me from what it’s time to release. And with that, I sat down and wrote this blog, to begin what I believe to be the start of my life as a workshop leader.
–why you must stop waiting to live
–the power of your intuition and how to connect with it
–what not to do when you’re lost or confused
–what to do about what other people think
–what every woman needs to succeed
–and how to make the leap to the life you know you need to live
If you can, answer these questions before bed and ask your inner guide/intuition to show you the answer in a way that you’ll recognize and understand. Remember to surrender all judgment and criticism when your answers come up.
–Is there anything nagging at you that you might be trying to ignore, or resist?
–Is there something, or someone, that you know you need to release and let go of so that you can move onto becoming your greatest self?
–Where in your life would you show up differently if you absolutely believed in yourself and trusted that life was for you, never against you?
–How often have you rationalized that you can’t or shouldn’t have, or do things that you want to do?
–How long have you lived your life being “good” and earning the right to spend a few hours or days experiencing pleasure, doing what you love, or living on your terms?
–Where are you in your life now?
–Are you living your greatest expression?
–If your life ended today would you be satisfied and fulfilled?
–What do you ache for?
–What do you really want?